Guilt is a strong emotion. Many persons are under it’s weight, and aching for relief. Like all other emotions, guilt finds it’s way in your personal life and tags along with you on your personal growth journey too.
However, that can be fixed. Take a good, long, deep breath. Yawn if you must. Then get ready to take your power back!
Here are 5 things you should NEVER feel guilty about on your personal growth journey.
And if you do have some guilt – it’s time you brush it off!
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1. Investing in Yourself
For certain, guilt can arise when you are about to – or have already invested in yourself. This happens because you start thinking about everybody else and everything else that could be better off if you do not – or did not invest in you.
Investing in self is not selfish. It is a necessary way to improve your mindset, skills, goals and growth! When it comes on to self investment, you should always remember your value. To help with that, see post: On your Mark. Mindset. Growth. You are worth your time, energy and resources (including money). This is not to say you will use your time, energy and resources foolishly – simply because they are yours. No.
Spending your money to have a good weekend just because you worked hard all week is not an investment. That sounds more like a treat. Contrastingly, spending money to enroll in a course that will improve your skills is an investment. An investment allows you to gain more than what you utilized in the first place. It also enables you a better quality of life in the future. However long or short that may be.
Hence, the next time you feel guilty about using your time, energy and resources on yourself – ask, will this enhance the quality of my life in the future? If that’s a yes, then most likely it will contribute to your growth. You had better start investing now!
2. Being Different
Let’s raise no alarms here. Yes, there are persons having a hard time on their growth journey because they stand out from the crowd. However different you are, please believe that you have your space in the world! Because you do! You have different jokes to tell. A different way of smiling. You express yourself differently. If only the world could see your ideas and hear you out! Don’t wait for that to happen though. The world adjusts to changes and differences at a slow pace. Find your way – your different way – of adding to the variety of life.
Who knows, you may be guilt riddled about being different – while other persons are secretly guilty that they are not different like you! Now, that’s something to laugh about.
3. Following Your Passion
Some people feel guilty because they have disappointed others. That’s understandable. Especially if they had given their word that they wouldn’t have caused such disappointment. Nonetheless, when it comes on to your passion, guilt has no business there. Unless – you didn’t follow it.
In the pursuit of your passion, you’ll need to introspect and reflect. What are your values? Your skills? What excites you so much you wouldn’t mind doing it all the time and for free? Find that thing that makes you come alive – your passion that is! Then find ways to earn from it. It’s possible.
Ideally, stay far away from notions that passion doesn’t pay the bills. No systems without efficient strategies can! Upon finding and following your passion, the right people and strategies won’t mind supporting you – by paying for the awesomeness you offer.
Similarly, have open and honest conversations about your passion with the people close to you. They may want you to be and do something different which may cause conflict and guilt. In the end, follow your passion. That’s what will keep you going on your growth journey.
4. Taking a Break
Demands, demands, demands. The demands of life will pin you down, kill you, then replace you! Have you ever heard someone say that they can’t take a break? It may be a major exam, a big project, spring cleaning or a busy reputation to maintain. When your phone is overused – it gets overheated. When your clothes are worn out – they begin to ravel or fade in colour. When you are over worked or simply feeling overwhelmed, your organs are holding up that pressure. Who knows, they may decide to let go when you least expect it.
Why wait until that time to take a break? Avoid wearing down your self and take a break today. People often feel guilty for taking a break out of fear they will miss out on time. Sometimes too, it’s because they did not delegate someone else to help with responsibilities. Feeling guilty about those things mean you need to put actions in place that will minimize or eradicate that guilt.
Therefore, if you have exams, schedule study time and incorporate breaks. If you want a leave, delegate your tasks to a willing persons or at least communicate your absence.
That way, you can rest in peace! I mean – take a break in peace. 🙂
5. Saying NO
Saying no when it matters most, is a no well said. This may be a hard thing for many persons. While for some, not so much. Don’t mistake saying no with being unkind though. Let’s observe one thing:
You cannot be everybody’s saviour. Likewise, you can’t grant wishes and fulfil requests all the time. There are many things that people may desire of you. Your time, your skills, your company, your resources, just to name a few. And that’s okay. Kindness is a good virtue.
However, saying no may mean you have prioritized a group of tasks, and the request of a yes from you may harm that. Similarly, you may simply not have the urge nor energy to produce a yes right now. it’s that simple. Often, you may feel as though you have to be sick for people to sympathize with your no. That’s not healthy. No pun intended.
If the people requesting your yeses can’t tolerate your nos when you most need to say no – those people may be selfish or uncompassionate.
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